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The 10 most important things I’ve learned throughout my life.

Rebeccmi

Life is all about lessons. We learn as long as we live. It’s the core of how we stay in movement, develop and unfold ourselves. I find myself grateful for every decision I’ve made, it’s consequences and the lessons that I’ve learned from them – both good and bad. It’s what has taken me on the path I am today. Some stick deeper then others of course, but I wanted to share the 10 most important things I’ve learned in life so far and maybe you will recognise some of these lessons yourself.

1. Life is a first-person story. Everyone makes decisions from their point of view and the place that they are in at that point in time. It’s so easy to point fingers and be judgemental, but at the core of this it’s important to remember that we all see life through our own eyes. We don’t really know everyone’s story or the reasoning behind other people’s behaviour and choices. Be kind.

2. Appreciation is key. It’s not always easy, but to be grateful for your experiences are important for your wellbeing. There is always something to learn and with time, reflection and the right focus you will come to see that. Appreciate the little things if you find the bigger things hard at first. The more you are grateful for, the more you get to be grateful for. Personally I’ve got a whole notebook dedicated to gratefulness.

3. There will always be people who don’t wish you well. Solution: bye.

4. Mistakes are to be made. We need chaos to know order, like we need sadness to know what it’s truly like to be happy. Mistakes are to be made, but don’t ever let them define you as a person. You MAKE mistakes, you’re not A mistake. An important difference.

5. An accident rarely arrive in ones. When shit hits the fan is usually a shitfest. Breathe.

6. The people who truly love you will always have your back. The best thing about the worst time of your life is that you get to see people’s true colours. (Ref nr.3)

7. Always trust yourself. You’re eyes are easily blinded, but your gut feeling knows. Always.

8. Letting go is the ultimate freedom.

9. If it cost you peace of mind, the price is to high. (Ref nr.8)

10. Change is inescapable. You can choose to make it painful or you can welcome it and the joy it can bring in to your life, either way it is bound to happen.

I’ll round it off with the ultimate life advice:

don’t let anyone talk you out of it.

Thank you for stopping by.

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Travel

How London actually turned out.

Rebeccmi

I made a hella lot of plans for myself before I welcomed this weekend, but it didn’t really turn out the way I planned. I never got around to the Tate or to my precious donuts, but I can assure you that I had a lovely time.

Friday was mostly travelling. I had to book an earlier flight due to a storm. I made my mind up that I wasn’t going to be stuck at Gardermoen for hours – well, the early flight was delayed too, but I made it eventually. I checked in to the hotel and then found the closest pub and had a little beer adventure by myself before meeting up with Matt and heading for dinner. Mexican food was on the wish list, unfortunately Mexican food in Europe is never the same after you’ve had actual Mexican food. Sad, but true. Even so these hats kind of made up for that:

Then we went to Club Reign and met up with an old friend I haven’t seen in eight years! I can’t believe time goes by so fast. Syed worked as a promoter back when I studied in London and is still going strong. The club was amazingly weird and gorgeous.

Ps. I want that girls job. Getting paid to polish her nails.. #dreamjob

…and that was pretty much Friday. Saturday I spent in Oxford and Carnaby. I never got out of there. Once I enter TopShop all time is lost. And so is my money. I came out with lashes long enough to smack someone in the face – and new stuff of course.

I did shopping, lunch, a rooftop bar and just explored a little before heading back to the hotel for an hour before going to the concert venue. I didn’t really have any expectations for the gig (since I was severely drunk on tequila when I stumbled in half way through it the last time), but I’m gonna admit that I was impressed. The Shadowboxers are definitely getting a place in my playlist. I kind of gave myself a little guilty consciences towards myself for not paying attention the first time. I mean, I missed out. That band can play and put on a show! The vibe was really good too and I met so many fun people! All in all it was a really great night beyond my expectations.

Now I’m sitting at Gatwick waiting for my flight, reflecting on this weekend. I’m tired and look forward to coming home, but I’m kind of sad as well – Which is a good thing and means that I had a really great time.

Hope your weekend was as lovely as mine.

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Travel

Weekend plans for London.

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Ok – so my weekend trip came up fast, but I’ve established a plan for my short visit and I want to share it with you. Now, I’m no first-time visitor to London. I actually did a semester of studying there in 2010, but these are definitely some good places to go for your first visit and some firsts for me as well.

Friday: I arrive late afternoon so I’m going to explore the hotel for a bit, before I enjoy Kensington – which (used to be and I hope it still is) a calmer area for shopping and bar jumping. It’s not super busy like Oxford street or Carnaby, though both Carnaby and Soho are must-does. Into the nightly hours I’m meeting up with an old friend, whom work in the London club scene, for a spectacular night at Reign show club. Check this out:

http://www.thelondonreign.com

Saturday: I hopefully don’t wake up to hungover. Brekkie is a must of course and then I’ll be off to Tate Modern, in which I haven’t visited since 2010. They’ve got some good exhibitions going on and I’m especially excited about these:

And then there is the general weirdness that Tate always offers. I was planning to go see my old university, but I’m kind of thinking I might skip that and go to Shoreditch for the worlds most amazing cronuts.. I mean. It’s worth the flight alone and you only find them in London and Dubai. Correction: they’re also in Brighton now. Look at this:

You have not had a donut or a cronut until you’ve had DumDums. A donut will never be the same ever again. Check out their Instagram: Dumdum donutterie

…and while in Rome.. I might just enjoy Brick Lane. Not sure if the Market is up on Saturday, but it’s always a pleasure no matter what. When night falls, as you know, I’m going to Borderline to enjoy The Shadowboxers. Check out the vid in my last post.

And that’s really it for my trip. Sunday I go back home, so I don’t really have time to do anything other than prepare for the airport.

Got any great tips? I’m always happy to get some tips of happenings. If you wanna follow my trip, make sure to follow my Instagram.

Have a lovely Thursday!

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Travel

London calling.

Rebeccmi

Good Tuesday fellow humans!

I did a Q&A @ my insta the other day and got asked where my next trip would go – in which I hadn’t really got any concrete answer, but as it turns out I’m off to London this weekend! I haven’t been for quite some time, so I’m excited! So how did this come about? Well, first off I decided a long time ago to turn myself in to a YES-man. Or woman – which is more appropriate. I met some really fun people at the Justin Timberlake concert I went to last week and got invited to go see their show in London and here we are. I’m going for two days and booked myself the most amazeballs hotel ever. Just look at this:

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Are you as excited as I am?! Wait for it… It’s called The Exhibitionist. I just hope those mannequin lamps aren’t actual people peeping.. I do absolutely love the vibe of this hotel though and hopefully it will go right in to my Top 5 favorites.

Even though there’s still some days left until I leave I just have to get my sh*t in order, so I pulled out my travel outfit and started planning what to pack.

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I mean, I start work tomorrow after a very long time off. And I’ve got commitments today, so I best be prepared in good time. I’m gonna try to document the things I do for you so that I finally can give you an appropriate travel post when I get back, but don’t get your hopes up to much – You know I get caught up in the moments.

If  you want to check out the band I’m seeing they recently posted a new YTvid:

Good, right?!

Now I have to stress about to  get my ass out the door. Thank you for stopping by and have a lovely Tuesday ❤

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Personal

Expectation feeds frustration.

Rebeccmi

It’s 23:29 and I’m sitting by the kitchen table listening to Susanne Sundfør drinking coffee. I was supposed to go out tonight, but I felt so drained earlier this evening. Now? Wide awake – of course. I slept for a very long time this morning. Ok. Afternoon. I was exhausted and I kept waking up from nightmares. By the end of it I just had to get up and turn on all the lights. After walking around the apartment for a while at 4 o’clock in the morning I finally put on a deep sleep meditation to doze off and then woke up around 12 pm from a dream where all my friends died. Nice, huh? That kind of set the mood for my day, I mean, you know that uneasy feeling you just can’t shake? I’m not sure where I am going with this.. I’m just super frustrated at the moment and need to let it out, but then again there are things in this world I don’t share with everyone which kind of makes that difficult. Let’s just put it this way:

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Then again, we can’t stop expectation. Or drive. Or value. Or moral. What will be left? I mean, everything needs a counterpart, I’m just super frustrated with myself for continuously putting myself in a situation I know will hurt me. Something that I was out of, which I put myself back into and it’s driving me crazy. It’s a loop that pretty much goes like this:

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And here we are. Why is it so hard to let go of things that hurt you, when there’s so many beautiful and heartwarming things right outside your window? ……The irony of the universe. Without chaos there’s no order I guess. Oh well.. That’s all of this ramble – which makes no sense to both you and me.

Good night.

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Norwegian culture, Personal

Making a home.

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A home is more than a house. Or apartment for that matter. Yes, we need walls and doors, but a home – to me – is a reflection of the individual. Some like colours, some are creative, some like minimalism, some are classical, some are trendy, some are messy and some are super clean. A home can tell you a million things about a individual. Their character, their priorities, their habits. An American familymember told me that Norwegian homes looks like catalogue material and in all honesty there is a reason for that. I’m not saying all Norwegians are super clean and high levelled interior designers, believe me we are not, but in all fairness we do spend a good amount of time indoors during winter. We like it cozy, we’re pretty much stuck in there. It’s a home, not a house.

As you know I recently bought an apartment and I am super excited to make it my home – once all the mess is over (I’ll get back to that later, when the mess is over). I went a little overboard meeting some obstacles and took comfort shopping to a whole new level. I bought furniture! With nowhere to put it. Buuut.. I’m super happy to share with you some of the stuff I got – to give you an idea about how it will look in the end.

I’ve been drooling over this chandelier and sofa for well over a year. I knew I had to have them long before I even found a place to put them in. I’m very happy to say that these beautiful pieces of art has already arrived and I can’t wait to put them in my (hopefully soon) totally renovated apartment! I bought this piece last summer and it will be lovely with the sofa:

I like my furniture calm and settling, but magnificent. That way I can play with the details with out having the room scream at me. And change things up without having to spend money like a duke. Like these coffe mugs. And candlelight’s. And paintings. And all other stuff to decorate with. Now this isn’t my most colourful picture, but I do like to sneak in some colour here and there.

My focus these days is first of all to get things in order, but I do like to browse the internet for possible additions every now and again. Currently looking for a dining room table with some Scandinavian designed chairs to go with my soon coming black kitchen. Got any good websites I can visit? I’ll gladly take some tips!

I am really excited to create my home and I’m very excited to share my vision with you. I just can’t wait to show you the finished result in the future.

..and to be drinking my coffee, snuggling on my choice of a kitchen counter. But this will be it for now.

Thank you for stopping by. Again, if you have some good tips for websites please share in the comments. It’s much appreciated ❤

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Personal

4 Life-changing books

Rebeccmi

Standing still in life is not a desired place to be. Often I think we don’t even know where we want to be due to the constant external influence we suck up on a every day basis. Now, I am both a introverted and a quiet person, which means I spend much time inside the space of my own mind – even when surrounded by many people. This space used to be filled with insecurities, criticism and a whole lot of negativity. That’s no way to move forward, let me tell you. Did you know that we think the same negative thoughts 80% of the day? The same, useless thoughts. What happens when we allow them to flourish? They keep coming back. Curious by nature and a keen reader, I started to pick books for self-awareness and that’s one of the best decisions I ever made. No one gives us this information, you have to be a seeker, which is my theory why so many get into mindfulness these days – but mindfulness is really just a fancy word for awareness and you don’t need to empty your head on the back of a virgin unicorn to have clarity in your life. So, since I’ve read a lot, listened to dozens of books and been a keen seeker for a long time I’ve decided to share my favourites with you.

The key element all these books have in common, and I want to point out that they are very different, is that complication and negativity are unneeded, excessive patterns that we can deal with in an easy, non energy draining way. Reading these will not make you mindful, but you might learn something that takes you in the right direction. Something that takes you away from this:

And towards a more fulfilling life experience.

I’m on round two of The joy of living and I return to The desire map often. Quiet I have heard one time (and it’s really good if you are introverted, but everyone has something to learn). The energy bus is the most simple, good feeling story with a wonderful message – I’ve heard that one a couple of times as well. All of these books is not a onetime read. It’s enjoyment, learning, practice and rereading. It’s books that will give you new impulses every time. Often we overcomplicate things, a lot of things, and there is really no need for that. All we really want is happiness, right?

These books have really made a difference to my life and I hope they can do the same for you – if you are willing. So enjoy and please let me know what you think of you go ahead with it 🙂

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