lifestyle, Norwegian culture, Travel

Greetings from Trondheim.

Right now I’m in Trondheim Norway, enjoying a beer and my book at a busy bar in the city centre. I am by myself, enjoying being at it’s fullest.

I had a bit of a slow morning, but in the end got myself down to the city centre for a walk, a bit of sighting and in the end some food and drinks. How I love to walk on such bright, sunny and refreshing days. Even if the cold overcomes you at some point. Which is when it’s nice to escape into a bar.

I’ve always been comfortable being alone and doing stuff on my own, especially when being abroad. At home too of course, but the threshold is slightly higher in Norway for some absurd reason. It might be because I know what I used to think and how we are culturally programmed to perceive solitude in general. It’s no secret that our society is built upon the union of two or more. You’re kind of a weirdo if you do things alone. But let me tell you, nothing is more liberating. Nothing is more adjusting and healthy for your soul than to do things on your own. You grow – they way you are meant to grow. Without interference.

So, I just wanted to drop by and wish you a lovely and happy Friday. Enjoy the beauty you surround yourself with and take care ❤

xx

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lifestyle, Norwegian culture

The 21th century: the era of offence, self-deception and idiotism.

We are living in the strangest of times. I can of course only speak from my cultural and geographical context, but I suspect we’re all tainted in some respect due to our global engagement. I was having a moment with myself this morning where I reflected upon the fact that I haven’t really reflected upon anything much lately. This made me feel both very empty and very content that I have been busy with my own personal life. The thing is that I have days where I’m in my more introverted corner and I usually use these days to be creative, reflect, read or spend some sort of emotional or spiritual time with myself (how ever weird that might sound). Which I have been doing all day, but then it suddenly hit me. This has been boiling in my under-consciousness for days and days. Probably years, because it’s not my first string of thought made towards this subject. Far from it. But I realised that I am so goddamn fed up with idiotism. I am absolutely fed up with, and I quote my good friend here:

Society being adjusted according to the slowest, sickest and most incapable animal.

Because this is the reality of our time. In all my living years, no year has been worse in this regard than 2018. I mean, is it even remotely possible to become more stupid or offended than in society today? Is there ANYTHING that isn’t criticised? (And yeah, I see the irony here, but I cannot hold this in any longer). Why is it so? Why is it so that we are pointing fingers, judging and being assholes to each other about anything and everything that we can? WHY are people so intolerant?

You would think that our value system would have progressed towards 2018, but sadly it has not. Don’t misunderstand, we write and speak the words, but I suspect that the majority don’t have a clue what it really means. I am going to draw this from a Norwegian angle, because this is the one I know best. I have pointed out the weirdness of Norwegians liability to have to be like every other Norwegian earlier and this is the ultimate problem in the frame of our era of idiotism:

We must all be alike.

But wait, we are to be the best version of ourself. But only if it fits the frame of the likeness with the sickest, slowest and most incompetent animal. Shame on you if you’re smarter, prettier, healthier, happier or anything else in that regard. Shame on you if you fit in the ideal of others conception of perfect. Shame on you if your ambitions or your views collide with the one of the underdog. We can’t have that! We most certainly do not say it like it is either, no, we try to create a new ideal to put everyone in. Because god forbid that we eliminate the problem of an ideal by simply removing it through acceptance of indifference. No. We must be alike.

If you’ve fallen off my train of thought by now, I am going to exemplify this right now. I am choosing a less loaded example here, I do not want to start a forest fire. So, in Norway our mainstream of influence comes from, well, influencers. Bloggers. It’s such a big deal that even our politicians are involved. We don’t have an animal police, no, we’ve got a blog police. I am not joking. Anyway, the main cause of our influencers are arguments back and forth about beauty standards and the crisis of the beauty industry changing our conception of beauty. We shall all praise normal. Ok, I see no problem with people having that opinion. It becomes a problem when you’re shamed for being fit, but praised for showing of a chubby body in lesser clothing. It becomes a problem when natural isn’t allowed to be natural. So this is natural: difference. The “natural” concept uttered in this context means: “not better than..”, “not fitter than..” and “not prettier than..”. And what if some people want to adjust their looks? What is the problem? Why do you care so intensely? Why do you shame people that are different than you? Yes, I hear the standard arguments: “young people get influenced.”, “we need to set a new standard” and it goes on. You know what? What you’re actually doing is influencing that bullying is ok. That it’s not acceptable to be different. That it’s not acceptable to be normal. If you mean to utter that your core values are more tolerance for the natural, you must live up to your value. I think people should stop talking and pointing fingers and live up to their own words without shitstaining others. See, what you really are doing is creating a new ideal and shaming everyone that doesn’t fit in it. On top of that you are underlining that the physical is more important than your person.

In our era of idiotism we have forgotten life’s lesson, or maybe never learned them at all:

  • You cannot have everything you want.
  • To dim someone else’s light doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.
  • You cannot control your environment.

So what does this mean? Well, it means that it’s necessary to work on your person. Your value system, your reaction pattern and what type of human you want to be from the inside out. It seems to me like we have forgotten that we are more than physical bodies. That there is more to life than beauty and status. And most importantly that happiness is individual – like everything else! Because in the end all we want is happiness, right? What we need is acceptance and tolerance. We can’t just say it, we have to live it. Breathe it. And you need to stop being offended by everything. I hear Steve Hughes in the back of my head here:

“”I was offended! I was offended and I have rights! I was offended. I want to live in democracy, but I never want to be offended again!” – well you’re stupid!”

and that just speaks for itself.

I was going to take a step into self-deception in this regard as well, but I see now that this post is starting to look more like a thesis and it needs to come to an end.

My conclusion is this: we need to learn to understand our feelings and deal with the fact that it is ok not always be on top. It’s the way of life and the sooner we learn the better the life. We cannot run society on each individuals feelings, because despite it might be your wet dream that we’re all alike, we will never be. Not in mind and not in body. Acceptance and tolerance is key, and something that we lack today. I’ll leave it off with Steve’s thought train, because I cannot say it any better.

Thank you for stopping by and good night.

x

Norwegian culture

Animals of the seasons.

Darkness is falling upon us. I hear the wind sing its agony while ripping the shades of reds from the trees. Death has arrived and it’s taking its time while transforming nature into a higher state of beauty before seizing it away from us.

It’s my favourite time of year. The colours. The freshness of the air. The end of a cycle and the start of a new. It’s Fall.

A true Norwegian at heart, fall is the definition of “koselig”. We are tired. Tired of summer. Tired of spending all time and energy outside. The pressure of being high energy levelled all the time. Of the heat. The long summer evenings. We are ready for the howling of the wind, the rain raging upwards from the pavement, the warmth of candles, blankets and loved ones within the four walls of our homes. For our wool sweaters and grandmas home knitted socks. For crime shows on the telly. It’s time to retreat from the extroverted to the introverted.

Norwegians are like the seasons themselves. We follow the cycles. As much as we don’t like to admit it, or realise even, we long for the constant change.

We are animals of the season.

Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.

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The twinkle in our eyes.

The world is full of magic things, waiting for our senses to grow sharper.

..But somewhere along the way they weakened. When did we stop viewing the world with amazement and stars in our eyes?

I’ve spent a good amount of time with my nephew lately. He is very new to this world and everything is a beautiful mystery to him. I see the twinkle in his eyes when he discovers a new sound or something as simple and common as a leaf on the pavement. He gets so excited and explodes from the joy of sharing it. It makes me wonder… when do we forget the magic of the world? When is it that we are to busy and occupied to see the beauty right in front of us? The joy of simple enjoyment and to get excited about life for the purpose of life itself?

Now, this is a generalisation of course, I know there to be creative, joyful souls out there who brings delight to us through their stories, music and art every single day. It’s when I look at people from my window seat at a cafe, the bus ride to work or simply at instagram that I loose faith. Can we even be more alike? It’s the importance of being busy, accurate, socially correct, materialistically successful, feigned and like everyone else that makes me feel and live the contrast to the genuinely happy spirit of my nephew.

It makes me sad that we somewhere a long the way loose our childlike spirit and get groomed into depressing adults chasing trophies for others to admire – like we really care. What’s the importance? And why do we care so much about other people’s admiration?

It’s not to be admired that gives true happiness. It is to admire the greater and the most simple things in this world and in life.

I for one am gonna let my nephews enthusiasm rub off on me as long as I can.

I’ll start by enjoying these covers against my skin and stretch out in bed – just because I can!

Truly enjoy your Saturday ❤

x

Norwegian culture, Travel

Storbo Adventure Camp

This weekend I got invited by my good friend Martine to join her and a group of friends at Storbo Adventure Camp for this years pike fishing competition. With all intentions to fish we packed the car full of stuff and left Friday morning. We didn’t need half the stuff and we never got around to the fishing, but I assure you that the whole experience was absolutely great!

The Camp is owned and operated by Martines friends Tina and Christian. They create amazing adventures for groups of people all year around – but mostly wintertime because of Norwegians hunger for snowmobiling – which is illegal in Norway. The Camp is based right a cross the Norwegian-Swedish boarder a little trip from Trysil. I think we were about thirty people who enjoyed each other’s company. The surroundings are beautiful and the Camp itself magnificent! We stayed in the main house, but there are apartments for let and enough beds to fill. I’m not a very outdoorsy person, but this was definitely the place to be to have a great experience. I’ll link the website -> HERE.

Friday was a day of celebration and we had a barbecue and drinks. Which resulted in a little bit of a hangover the next day, so Martine and I pretty much just watched the hardcore ones go out in boats. Upon their return we had a huge dinner in Gildhallen and kept going into the nightly hours.

I did a little collage from the few pics I took:

I also wanted to leave you a video of our trip up there, because the landscape is so beautiful. It’s doesn’t get more Scandinavian than this, mountain speaking (fjords excluded – that’s a Norwegian thing). And some highs from the Camp itself. I hope you enjoy:

The song used in the video is M.A.L.O – Purpose. Link to Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/652RhE5VNCChpGqaVLnQUC?si=WAjPHx9wTK6Cpxn496r8Ag

I am ADDICTED to this song and it couldn’t have come in to my life at any better time. #searchingForAPurpose – also the artist is Norwegian and it’s his very first single! I guess it was meant to be.

Now I’m left with this years first cold and I feel very, very sorry for myself – so I’m gonna go back to doing that. Thank you for stopping by.

x

Norwegian culture, Personal, Travel

Norwegian in Los Angeles

Being Norwegian in Los Angeles is nothing but exceptional. I’m sure there are Norwegians who beg to differ, but for me and my fellow travel partner it’s our favorite place to visit. Even though the reasons are complex, I will try to break it down for you.

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First off our love comes from a cultural perspective. We have both spent our youth years in small remote places in Norway where Norwegian culture stand strong. With that I particular mean what we call “Janteloven”. It’s a norm that have grown strong roots into our culture since 1933. The law of Jante comes from a text of Axel Sandmose’s book “En flyktning krysser sitt spor” and goes like this:

  1. You’re not to think you are anything special.
  2. You’re not to think you are as good as we are.
  3. You’re not to think you are smarter than we are.
  4. You’re not to imagine yourself better than we are.
  5. You’re not to think you know more than we do.
  6. You’re not to think you are more important than we are.
  7. You’re not to think you are good at anything.
  8. You’re not to laugh at us.
  9. You’re not to think anyone cares about you.
  10. You’re not to think you can teach us anything.

After more thorough research I realized that this actually is a Scandinavian phenomenon. I’m not sure how well rooted this phenomenon is with our neighbors, but it sure is a reality in Norway. In other words put beautifully by a unknown source in Wikipedia:

The description of a pattern of group behavior towards individuals within Nordic countries that negatively portrays and criticizes individual success and achievement as unworthy and inappropriate.

When in Los Angeles we are free of this. People simply do what they want, they pursue their ideas and desires no matter what and I find it so inspiring. Being around individuals like this also gives me a feeling of freedom I rarely experience at home. Don’t get me wrong, I do feel like a free individual in Norway and i pursue what ever I want, it’s just that it’s usually frowned upon and that can be hard sometimes. Norwegians are in a very spoiled position where we have room to frown upon others: we have a safety net others only can dream about. This also makes entrepreneurship rare here. Why take a risk when everything is handed to you?  On the other hand I always return home with lots of inspiration and creativity! I find it super inspiring and interesting to see how Americans go about their life, because I am so used to the safety net and the clock in/clock out mindset we have in Norway. Here work is just work, not a passion (even if they try to convince you otherwise). It’s lovely to see the passion in people and how excited they are about what they do – and all the hours they put in it – without the judgement of our fellow humans.

The second thing is networking and friendships. Because of the lack of The law of Jante, coming into contact with people is really easy. I hear the Norwegian Troll in the back of my mind at this moment go “ooh – but it’s all superficial. True relations take time” – hah. Yes, they do, but how the heck are you arrive at this point if saying “hi” to someone new puts you in a mental hospital? Say “hi” to someone on the bus here and they will look at you like they think you escaped from a mental institution. I swear,  I’m not trying to paint Norway in a bad way – I love my country, but it really is the reality of things and a reason why I sincerely love Los Angeles. In the short amount of time I have spent there I already have several beautiful relationships blooming and I am so grateful to have these people in my life – both family and friends.

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Then there is the food. I love how simple it is to stay healthy. I mean, I usually don’t because I’m on a holiday, but to be unhealthy in Los Angeles is seriously a conscious choice. No matter what your diet is, there are endless possibilities. And don’t get me started on all the freshness and tastes. I’m drooling right now, thinking about just booking my next ticket. I mean, I would move for Wholefoods as a single reason.

There are some cons though:

  1. My hair gets really, really thirsty. It seriously goes from softness itself to a broomstick. Wtf?
  2. The lack of sleep. There is to much fun everywhere!
  3. The endless sunshine. I mean, I love it, but it can drive me a little bit insane at times. I’m used to seasons and not having that is mentally challenging for some reason.

Coming home this time was like going from a rock concert to a meditation room. I’m dead tired. All I do is eat, sleep and dwell. I dwell a lot because I’ve actually come to the conclusion that I want to move over. I have no idea how I will make that happen practically, but I’m dwelling on it. I’m young, I don’t have children and it’s kind of now or never -ish. I mean, I have things to put in order in my life over here first, but I am seriously thinking about this day and night. It might be the best decision of my life, or the worst.. But how would I know if I don’t try? *Waiting for Norwegians to go all apeshit-Jante*

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I hope that gave you some insight into my/our love for this city. I would like to do a “10 things to do in LA”-post, but I’m always blown out of my mind with all that is happening so I never get around to documenting anything. Maybe next time. Now I’m off to the gym and then I have a eating-date with my travel soulmate at her house – while walking down memory lane from our last trip. Enjoy your weekend – wish you all the best!

x

 

How does it work, Norwegian culture, Norwegian logic

Norwegian weathersickness

Norway is a seasonal country by every means of the word. We have harsh winters, rainy fall and if we’re lucky: warm summers. As a product of this Norwegians have a very schizophrenic relationship with weather and we feel entitled to complain no matter what – almost. The exception arises when the sun is out and temperatures goes up. 2018 has been a rough year with everyday snowfall during winter and hot, hot, hot summer days! We’ve haven’t had this kind of dry and hot summer weather since 1947 and now it’s taking a toll. You see, we just can’t handle it. We feel guilty complaining about something so rare and good, but in the end we’re not made for this. Neither is our country. Air conditioning? Say what? Do you even know how cold it is during winter? Our houses has more heaters than rooms.

Most posted picture on Facebook today:

Reason? It’s 35 Celsius/95 Fahrenheit.

I can’t believe I’m writing this, but I am super excited about this weekends thunderstorm. I hope Sweden gets some as well.. they aren’t doing to well with all their fires and now shits about to hit the fan over here as well.

…so from both the Norwegian people and our forests: thank you universe for sending some rain tomorrow!

ps. Reason we don’t complain about heat in other countries is that is expected and we know we’re gonna return home. Yes, we’re weird like that.

I hope you have beautiful summer weather AND air conditioning wherever you are.

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