I did not understand it at the time, but after some maturing, a little taste of hell and several rereads of «the power of now», it made more sense than ever. The less things that clutter our lives, the happier we become. How you might ask? Well, It is all in the realization that nothing lasts for ever. Everything can be taken from you. Your relationships, your business, your money, your house, your perfect Chinese porcelain tea set, your health and yourself. I’ve lost myself at several occasions. Material things should never define you or your happiness, and yes: That includes other human beings. We live in cycles. We lose and we win. When we lose, we win the most. When we win, we get to comfortable, and then the fear of losing it all comes crawling. Maybe we fuck it up, maybe we don’t. And so life goes on. Now where does positivity fit in you might ask? Right here. Are you like me, sick of fucking unicorns and quotes that tells us to stay positive and happy, fake it till you make it. Just get up and shine and everything will be fine. Barf. Positivity is a state of mind. Positivity is the ability to see solutions. Positivity is change. That is what it is. What it is not is faking a smile, shitting fictional rainbows and/or suppressing all the fucked up things in your life, including your feelings. Positivity is widely misunderstood. Being positive, or having a positive mindset which is what I am addressing here, is about seeing solutions and being able to take action. You don’t even have to smile while doing it. Smiling is what we usually do when we are happy, and happy and positive are not synonyms. Just think about positive and negative in test-results. A positive test-result means that something has changed. Negative results means that nothing has changed. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you are going to be thrilled about the positive result, that this result will make you happy. Perhaps even on the contrary. But it does mean that something has changed. Positivity is often thought of as uplifting, and it is uplifting to master stuff. Being able to solve challenges and problems. To think solutions. There is no doubt that being happy is much easier with a positive mindset, but having a positive mindset doesn’t automatically make you happy. Positivity is widely misunderstood.