I am not much of rule-rider, or regelrytter, as we call it in Norwegian. But I am a true believer in having both your values, personal principles and your shit together. I have also rambled about Jordan Petersons 12 rules for life: An antidote to chaos several times, both here, on instagram and in my everyday interaction with people. I simply love his approach to life and how he explains simply how we all should go about life to function the best way we can, in ourselves and towards others. So I make an exception for these rules regarding not getting on the rule-train. Lately I’ve noticed that there is a lot of complaining about what everyone else is doing, how they are doing it, what would be better, what is real and what is fake – especially when it comes to how we share our life stories visually over the internet. So I thought I’d share rule number 6 with you:
Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.Jordan B. Peterson
Harsh, I know. But very, very accurate and necessary. Let’s just clarify a couple of things before we dive into the point of this: This does not mean that you are not entitled to an opinion, or that you have to be perfect for that matter. Nobody’s perfect. What is does mean is that we all ought to clean up our own lives before we embark on others. Nicely put in other words:
Have some humility. If you cannot bring peace to your household, how dare you rule a city?
Meet the world with humility. Be humble. Humans are so quick to judge. Especially hypocritical judgements. The self-inquired blindness is absolutely mesmerizing and so obvious that it I am convinced that these people truly make an effort to be blind to the flaws they themselves inhabit and criticize in others. This is why rule 6 is extra relevant and important. Phrases regarding, and I am intentionally picking a superficial one here, instagram for instance: “people edit their pictures to look perfect”, “people pose to show off their best side, it’s not real” or “why can’t we all be more real and show our real side” whilst they themselves live off and does one or all of the above themselves – with some “look at me I am not perfect” stuff every now and again. And hey, to be honest I don’t mind. I mean, when I go to instagram and search for hashtags about organizing, I don’t want to see a messy house. Why would I even bother? I could just open up my closet. Also, posing or having beautiful esthetic pictures isn’t less real than the face we see when we open the snapchat camera. It’s just a lot more work behind it. Personally, I appreciate that work. Criticizing it and doing it yourself, and with passionate judgement I might add, that is: Hypocrisy. Something deep in there is clawing at you and you don’t even know it. You might know it, but you ignore it. Fight hard to come to terms with it. So I stand by, and make an effort to live by, rule number six – and I hope to inspire you to do the same, so that we together can move around in a more humble and less judgmental world. Because as Peterson says:
Life is in truth very hard. Everyone is destined for pain and sated for destruction. (…) Susceptibility to despair, disease, aging and death is universal. In the final analysis, we do not appear to be the architects of our own fragility.
So what if we could be more aware, less judgmental, clean up ourselves and be easier on each other? Wouldn’t that make the journey that is life more bearable?
Just a thought.