Travel

Travel soulmate

Rebeccmi

The last week and a half has been a nonstop party rant. We’ve been having such a good time meeting good people here in LA and now Eline sadly has to return to Norway – which gives me a week left with family and friends. Have you ever met your travel soulmate? I’m seriously so sad to see her go. When we travel together we meet the greatest people, find ourselves in the most random situations and just live it up like there was no tomorrow. I will admit that my body isn’t appreciating my lifestyle right now though, but it’s definitely worth it. So here is what we’ve been up to for the past week:

Pool parties spread across Los Angeles

Tanning in the backyard during the day

Brunching with new friends

Dinners

Dates

Hanging out with loved ones

Clubbing

..and that is really it. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it’s a lot in a short amount of time and my body just can’t deal today. If my head wasn’t attached to my body, it would have been lost now.

I haven’t really taken any pictures either. Time just passes and I’m too caught up in the moments – which is a good thing. So this little collage is all I got. Unless you follow my Instagram and get around to see my stories.

Right now I’m in bed waiting for Eline’s return from whole foods because I’m starving! Just wanted to give you a little update and share my heartache with you. Have a lovely day and see you soon!

x Rebecca

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Travel

Los Angeles update

Rebeccmi

I am sorry it’s been so quiet since my departure. I was planning on spending more time on updating you throughout, but I just had to come to terms with the fact that time passes by so fast while I’m here that I will have to post about this trip when I get home. In the mean time you are more than welcome to visit my IGTV for my departure vlog: IGTV

x Rebecca

Personal

4 Life-changing books

Rebeccmi

Standing still in life is not a desired place to be. Often I think we don’t even know where we want to be due to the constant external influence we suck up on a every day basis. Now, I am both a introverted and a quiet person, which means I spend much time inside the space of my own mind – even when surrounded by many people. This space used to be filled with insecurities, criticism and a whole lot of negativity. That’s no way to move forward, let me tell you. Did you know that we think the same negative thoughts 80% of the day? The same, useless thoughts. What happens when we allow them to flourish? They keep coming back. Curious by nature and a keen reader, I started to pick books for self-awareness and that’s one of the best decisions I ever made. No one gives us this information, you have to be a seeker, which is my theory why so many get into mindfulness these days – but mindfulness is really just a fancy word for awareness and you don’t need to empty your head on the back of a virgin unicorn to have clarity in your life. So, since I’ve read a lot, listened to dozens of books and been a keen seeker for a long time I’ve decided to share my favourites with you.

The key element all these books have in common, and I want to point out that they are very different, is that complication and negativity are unneeded, excessive patterns that we can deal with in an easy, non energy draining way. Reading these will not make you mindful, but you might learn something that takes you in the right direction. Something that takes you away from this:

And towards a more fulfilling life experience.

I’m on round two of The joy of living and I return to The desire map often. Quiet I have heard one time (and it’s really good if you are introverted, but everyone has something to learn). The energy bus is the most simple, good feeling story with a wonderful message – I’ve heard that one a couple of times as well. All of these books is not a onetime read. It’s enjoyment, learning, practice and rereading. It’s books that will give you new impulses every time. Often we overcomplicate things, a lot of things, and there is really no need for that. All we really want is happiness, right?

These books have really made a difference to my life and I hope they can do the same for you – if you are willing. So enjoy and please let me know what you think of you go ahead with it 🙂

x

Norwegian logic

Norwegian logic: Travel to find summer during the summer

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This post was outlined in the mids of the summer glory we had in May, but then June arrived with it’s lovely weather and I suddenly realised why this is logical. So it makes sense, but at the same time it doesn’t. I mean, we can actually experience long, warm and wonderful summers – and even if we don’t, who wants to throw away 70% of holiday days during the warmest months of the year to travel to hot places? Let’s be honest.. it’s more logical and giving to leave behind -20 Celsius for a warm summer day, right?

But then again I am one of them. A true to nature Norwegian – and our logic. It will be regretted in mid October. Departure for Los Angeles is coming up close and I’m so excited to share my trip with you! Since I’m not very good at regular posting, I will set a specific day for new posts (there might be some surprising ones in between though), so if you are interested to be alerted when new posts happen please subscribe to the email list. If you want follow my moves on a everyday/regular basis please feel free to follow me on Instagram where I post stories and captions every day (button in header).

Come join in on leaving summer for summer (which feels pretty good right about now) and take a part in Norwegian logic. I look forward to sharing with you and please share your holiday habits with me in the comments below – I would love to know if this is a global phenomenon.

x

Personal

A personal journey: The story I wouldn’t share and my most vulnerable moments.

Rebeccmi

You’re stuck and everything you want is sitting right there in front of you, out of reach.. you crave change with an unsatisfactory hunger and the only thing between you and what you want is your minds limits. I broke it. I took it. All at once.

These last few months have brought massive change for me. It all started a couple of years ago when my long term relationship broke in a very ugly way and my whole world crushed in to a million pieces. Not because of the relationship itself, but because all I thought to be true – like friends and the revelation of characters that I had been surrounding myself with – turned out to be as fake as a three dollar bill. I’m not going to paint myself as a saint here, because I wasn’t, but I find it extremely fascinating how flawed individuals can take the moral high ground in other people’s lives like they’ve never stained themselves. It’s fascinating how morally superior some suddenly get, even knowing that their sheet isn’t clean at all. When fingers are pointed at your flaws and they actually mirror their own. Fascinating. Anyway, I did a massive relations clean out and the time following was very uneasy with a lot of noise from my past life. A vendetta actually. At the very same time I started a new relationship, new relations, a new job and I moved houses. It took my attention away from the noise and I got to refocus, heal a little and grow. I’m very grateful to all the people who were there for me in this time of massive disappointment, grief and heartache. Thank you.

In this time I also distracted myself enough to leave some stuff unhealed, which later came back to haunt me. You see, a few moths ago it all tipped over. Ten years in a bad relationship with both a bad beginning, middle and end, the cruelty of friends I trusted, those who did nothing (and I mean nothing! Which is almost worse) and the pattern of me waiting for others to come around. Adjusting. Hoping for the hopeless. Putting myself a side. I was angry, massively angry and completely done with dancing to anyone else’s tune. I developed severe anxiety. I was depressed. I was down for the count. I think I wore the same t-shirt for weeks.. and I didn’t leave the house. Again, I’m very grateful to you who were there for me and took care of me in this time when I wasn’t capable myself.

I am still not completely where I want to be and I am still healing, but I did decide to make some changes. I did draw my ideal life and I have reached almost every single intention in my desire map. People get surprised over my decision making in this time of need and healing, but to be honest the timing has never been better. Things have never been clearer and I have never been more determined than I am in this moment of time. I started travelling again. I started writing again. Working out again. Painting. I bought a home. I (we) broke off my relationship (we are still friends and I will hold him close to my heart forever, he saved me in many ways and I love him dearly). The difference this time is that all of this is not a distraction, it’s with clarity and intent from my hearts desire. I learned from my downfall what really mattered to me and that soulfood and intentions are more important than any ideal presented from the outside world. And to be honest; it feels both scary as hell and wonderful at the same time, but most importantly it feels right. Even if some of it hurts.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from all of this it is that: Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as being stuck somewhere you don’t belong.

Thank you for reading.

x

Norwegian culture

First came summer, then came spring.

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It’s June. It’s supposed to be warm, summery and nice. Well, it’s not. May was such a wonderful and warm month. I actually went into the ocean in the Oslo Fjord – which I haven’t done for the two past years. And now.. it’s 14 Celsius and a wind that could make a grown man cry.

The weather in Norway is never stable. There is a reason why we Norwegians own wind jackets so high tech you would think their made for a new matrix movie and honestly I’m surprised no one has invented a backpack in the line of Hermine’s purse (you know the one with the tent and all in Harry Potter) – because we need to pack for every season when leaving the house! I mean, I’m grateful that we had a whole actual month of warm and sunny weather, but come on! For the last five years or so summer has been a one day deal or a myth that we’ve been told about, dreamt about and gone to bed with misbelief about. So let’s sum up a Norwegian summer:

Thinking about vacaying here? Bring everything, because you never know what you’re gonna need!

Thank you for sharing my pain with me. I hope your summer is amazing.

x

Personal

Things aren’t always as they seem: 5 lessons I’ve learned in life and how I cope with anxiety.

Rebeccmi

You might not know this about me, but I suffer from anxiety. It’s not life threatening or something that I deal with every day, but I have moments and periods of time where I really have to work myself out of mental situations which are very challenging. It hasn’t always been so or been this severe, and it’s not something that I’ve shared with many people, but it is a part of my reality. Today is one of those days. These past days have presented a number of challenges to me and even though I have a positive mindset towards them and see a number of possibilities that I am excited about, I do get small cracks that in the end puts my physical and mental state in a sort of hibernation. It’s these days I struggle to get out of bed and to bring my energy up to a level where I can push myself out the door and into a (un)comfortable situation to get over it. I’ve accepted this part of me and I don’t dwell to much over it. And even though this has nothing to do with other people, I thought I’d share some life lessons with you that’s made this acceptable to me and how I cope.

Lesson 1: People see what they want to see.

No matter how much you share or the amount of work you put into your success and failures, people choose to see what they want to see – or believe your story from other’s lips. Somehow I think this is a result of others lack and their denial to face it rather than about you, and that’s OK, but it’s not something you need too deal with.

Lesson 2: Be a scissor, cut bad energy out of your life.

Remove those people from your life. In my case, some of them removed themselves and what a blessing! Spend your time with people who genuinely wishes you the best and cheers you on. Once you notice the difference, you will never bat an eye or hesitate again.

Lesson 3: You are not obligated to do anything. Loose that word from your vocabulary.

You choose what you want and don’t want to do. You are not obligated to do anything. It’s your choice and there is power in that.

Lesson 4:  You are alone.

We come into this world alone and we leave it alone. We are alone in our feelings, our mind and in our body.  I don’t mean loneliness in this case, it’s simply a fact of life and the sooner we realize this – the sooner we can work on our relationship with ourselves.

Lesson 5: Be fearless.

This might sound weird, but even though I suffer from anxiety I try to be as fearless as possible. I do things, go places and try new stuff all the time, especially those things that scare me a bit. Why? Because it’s inspiring,  it makes me grow and gives me good pieces of reflection that move me forward in this life. To be stuck is not to live and if you’ve never failed- you’ve never challenged yourself.

I’m not saying any of this is easy, because if it was we would all live wonderful, fulfilling lives all the time. I’m not gonna say that my anxiety is a blessing either, but it sure is something that I made a conscious choice to use as a tool to push myself. I have days where it’s absolutely inhibitory, but most often it’s a reminder to, as Taylor Swift put so perfectly;”shake it off” and go do something challenging. I know there are people out there who think that everything just comes so easily to me and that my life if a garden of blooming flowers all the time, but this simply isn’t the case.

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So there you go. Things aren’t always as they seem. I wish you a wonderful Saturday wherever you are and I myself are gonna shake it off and get out of my PJ’s.

x